2. I will receive only as much respect from others as I give myself.
3. I am a person of value which cannot be taken away, nor needs to be validated by anyone else.
4. Treating others well is technically a choice, but one that can and will make all the difference in the world.
5. There will always be people and circumstances in life who/that will cause me pain that I can't control. That is not an excuse for me to become jaded and bitter. Instead, I will do my best to focus on the things I can control, like my attitude, reactions, and how to bounce back.
"I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that - I don’t mind people being happy - but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down 3 things that made you happy today before you go to sleep”, and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position - it’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!” I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness”. Ask yourself “is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is."